A concern is raised: my child isn’t satisfied that they are learning, they want to do “real learning”. What about workbooks if the kid enjoys that? What do you think?
Cue the chorus of “if it is child chosen, it is unschooling”. Case closed.
But woah, wait, rewind. Is the seal of approval that your actions are unschooling really the priority here? Look at the child in front of you and what they are actually needing.
Let’s consider this scenario instead: your child comes to you feeling unattractive. Do you go out and buy them make up, new clothes, a diet plan, plastic surgery? Or do you support them in identifying the source and processing those feelings? I would hope at least as a starting point, right?
Just as a society can imply a person’s appearance is not enough, it too can suggest that they are not enough in other ways.
We want to confront that message, not conform to it.
Now we have a child who has doubt about their learning. If we rush out and buy a workbook what does that communicate? That their fear was accurate? That they were right to think their life was lacking? Does it not hand them confirmation that yes, to learn they do need more? Does it not reinforce all the subtle messages that have told them they are not enough?
But your child, in fact, is enough. The problem is not reality but perception. Focusing on changing their reality only gives weight and validity to the thought pattern, it enables it to further develop.
The majority of society is already saying that “real learning” looks a certain way, do you really want to contribute to that message?