The “Just You Wait” Threat

Ever since I became a parent, there has been a crowd of people saying “just you wait”.

It’s kind of insulting, no? Have you had this too?

When we were happily co-sleeping and breastfeeding they would say “just you wait… ”

When our household embodied shared contribution, collaboration and co-operation, no force required they would say “just you wait…”

When we would live alongside children without punishment or shame, instead learning and growing through conflict and mistakes together they would say “just you wait…”

When we decided to forgo school and were extremely excited about the prospect they would say “just you wait”…

They may have felt they were being kind, preparing us for what they thought was inevitable but really what they were saying is one day, your ideals will fall short and I wasn’t the one who needed to hear that, they were. The validation of their own choices was dependent on the failure of mine. Yeah, lovely.

Well they can spend their days waiting, I’m not interested in doing the same. Life is brilliant, right here, right now and nobody else’s failure is required.

I’m not interested in competing with anyone, I hope we all make it. — Erica Cook

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  1. I’ve run into this lately, and it’s been very jarring. It’s only happened a few times, but the implication has been that everything is going to suddenly go south no matter what you do. Apparently it did for them, and they seem to want someone to share in their experience with them. It’s a bizarre habit, and one I’m thankful I don’t run into too too often.

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