We recently bought a yearly pass to a local attraction and it got me thinking.
These sort of purchases are of course worthwhile when you figure out the amount of times you have to visit for it be equal (and then better) value to paying each time and that matches up to your general projected desire to go BUT another hugely important aspect is; when you can come and go as often as you like, it completely changes the dynamic of your visit.
When you know you only have a finite amount of time to enjoy something; you plan to that condition. You get up and there early, you push yourself to squeeze every drop of your time there, if things start to feel too much you squash those feelings down because you only have now, you can rest and recover and process your feelings tomorrow. Except what if tomorrow was school?
Sometimes when you explain how you unschool, it is met with a person saying that oh, we do that too… on weekends and holidays. Sometimes they even throw in the slither of moments left in an afternoon around the expectations of homework and dinner and bedtime.
But unschoolers aren’t just showing up. They have season passes to life. They can show up whenever they want, however they want, for as long as they want and return anytime. There are no conditions.
When you know you have no arbitrary limits to your freedom and time, something inherently changes about your entire interaction.
It just is not enough to be there. To experience something in the way that you would as an unschooled version of yourself, you need to be there without expectation, without rush, without bias. You need to be there with abundance. And when you add schooling to the mix whether that is full time at an actual institution or an amount of required book work at home then it is always going to be different.